Accountability. It requires a balance that many managers fail to achieve. Finding the balance between being too tough and too soft is something nobody is born with; it takes work.
Learning how to do accountability well is a skill. It draws on your powers of observation. It requires your curiosity to pick up on the bread crumbs most managers miss. It tests your emotional intelligence, because the best accountability challenges people to own their strengths more than correct their weaknesses. It calls for the best version of you, the one who cares far more about people than about money, profit, or deadlines. And, more than occasionally, for the sake of the health of the team and the “A players” on it, it requires you to be the bad guy.
It appears to be a paradox but it isn’t. Like a parent who loves their child enough to say “no” and set boundaries, managers who care about people do accountability more and not less. Not because the people on your team are children but because we all need other people to help us see the things we can’t see about ourselves.
what would it look like to make it your mission to be “on it” with each person on your team? To give them the attention, the care, the love, that we all need to move through a stuck place. And it’s that kind of place, a place where accountability is not a word but is the DNA of the organization that ‘A’ players want to be at.
What REALLY creates a great place to work are the little things: the ways people communicate (or don’t); The way people kick the can (or don’t); The ways people show up on time and keep their agreements (or don’t). Leaders love to talk about wanting ‘A’ players, but they usually don’t think about or understand what ‘A’ players want.
‘A’ players don’t need a fancy mission statement. ‘A’ players to be where: Everyone is pulling their weight, holding themselves responsible, and the managers are holding everyone responsible for doing that.
So, how do you do it? Here’s a framework to get there. The Accountability Dial. It has one purpose: to give a set of benchmarks so you don’t go to fast (too tough) or too slow (to soft). A map to locate where you and your team member is in the process.
There are five steps to the process:
- The Mention: Short and immediate feedback where you say what you see and check in early on to make sure everything’s alright.
“Hey I noticed [a concrete observation about their work]… is everything okay?”
- The Invitation: An informal chat, usually in private, during which you help someone build more awareness around a particular issue.
“I’ve mentioned [concrete behaviors] to you a few times now… what’s the pattern here?”
- The Conversation: The “we need to talk” meeting, where you place some urgency around the issue and the importance of dealing with it.
“[Concrete observations/behaviors] are impacting the team… let’s discuss how to resolve this.”
- The Boundary: At some point, you will need to pull rank and outline the consequences of not following through.
“If [concrete observations] don’t change, we may have to consider [possible consequences].”
- The Limit: If the situation requires it, the employee may get one last chance to improve.
‘This is your final warning. Let me lay this out for you… ”
The dial is not a linear process — it can be turned up and down depending on the situation. For serious issues, you may jump immediately to The Conversation, or even The Limit.
But for many things, a few focused Mentions will do the job. That’s why it’s critical to build real-time feedback into your management style. However, I’m not suggesting you criticize — the ideal Mention is short, light, and comes from a place of genuine concern for the person.
Resisting the urge to solve the problem will feel unnatural. But it’s important that you get used to it.
It’s What You Do with It That Counts
The accountability dial is a useful way to start a dialogue and it’s what happens during the actual dialogue that separates the average managers from the great leaders. The four ideas that follow are among the hardest techniques to master — but they can have a massive impact on your team over time.
1. Ask Open Questions
Asking open questions that require more than just a yes/no response is an essential leadership technique. Whether it’s during a one-on-one, a weekly update, or real-time feedback, the more questions you can ask, the more accountable your team will become. Some examples of good open questions are:
- What are you trying to achieve?
- What’s working?
- What’s not working?
- What help do you need?
- What resources do you have available?
- What’s becoming clearer to you?
Even requests are more powerful when they’re made as open questions. Consider the difference between these two sentences:
- “Please try and arrive on time.” (a request)
- “What will you do to make sure you arrive on time?” (an open question)
Notice how the second version goes further in helping someone really think through the issue at hand.
2. Weed Out Excuses
Holding someone accountable can be uncomfortable for both sides. After asking a difficult question, it’s tempting to accept the first answer you get to ease the tension. However, you must weed out excuses when you spot them.
So what’s the difference between an “excuse” and a “reason”? An excuse is a statement of cause that assumes no responsibility. Imagine giving this feedback to a teammate arriving late to the office:
“Hey John, it’s 10:30 a.m. and you missed the standup — is everything okay?”
John might give one of two responses:
- “Sorry, the weather was awful and I got stuck in traffic.”
- “Sorry, I didn’t take the weather into account, and I should have sent a message on Slack when I realized I was running late.”
Notice that in the second response, he assumes far more responsibility than in the first. He was aware of his own role in the outcome.
When people realize there is more they could have — and should have — done to get a better outcome, it can be uncomfortable and they can start to sweat. But as a manager, you can’t shy away from it. Every failure is a learning opportunity.
3. Don’t Solve — Empathize
Resisting the urge to solve the problem will feel unnatural. But it’s important that you get used to it. Not all problems are your problems.
One of the reasons why so many managers jump to providing an answer is because it can feel really good to solve other people’s problems, especially when they seem easy to solve. But if you’re always playing the hero, you steal the glory from your team.
When your team comes to you with a problem, it’s a powerful approach to say, “That sounds tough — are you okay?’ rather than jumping immediately to the solution. Perhaps the most useful question a leader can ask is: “What will you do about it?”
4. Disagree and Commit
Jeff Bezos coined the expression “disagree and commit” to formalize a manager’s responsibilities to allow teammates to make their own decisions — and be held accountable for them.
Bezos isn’t the only CEO who thinks this way. In his 2018 TED Talk, How Netflix Changed Entertainment, CEO Reed Hastings said:
“I pride myself on making as few decisions as possible in a quarter… There are some times I can go a whole quarter without making any decisions.”
Every leader knows just how hard it is to allow your team to take decisions that you might not agree with — or that you suspect may fail.
You should even be careful in making suggestions, in the world of accountability. As a CEO, I learned the frustrating fact that what I meant as a suggestion often sounded like a decision to my team. This always came back to haunt me when I held them accountable later and they said, “But I was just doing what you suggested.”
5. Outline the Consequences
Holding people accountable and asking tough questions can expose performance issues in an individual. We are all accountable for our own performance. But what happens if, despite regular feedback and conversations, someone’s performance doesn’t improve?
Setting boundaries requires you to define the consequences of overstepping them. It’s helpful to distinguish between two types of consequences: punitive and protective. A punitive consequence is one whose objective is to punish certain behaviours, whereas a protective consequence is one that protects your needs as a business and as a team.
To illustrate, let’s look at the example of someone whose continued lateness to meetings is leaving the team frustrated and inefficient. Which of the following consequences is protective and which is punitive?
- “If you keep arriving late for meetings, we won’t be inviting you on the company trip to Barcelona next month.”
- “If you keep arriving late for meetings, we won’t be able to afford you the flexibility of working remotely.”
In the first example, following through on the consequence won’t resolve the real issues for the team — those of reliability and punctuality. In the second example, removing the flexibility of work-hours will help protect the team’s needs.
The term “consequences” can be scary because it’s often associated with firing someone. In reality, there is a wide spectrum of possible consequences, for example:
- Reducing flexibility of work hours
- Switching around roles and responsibility
- A formal warning
- Extra training
- Terminating employment
Where Do You Sit?
As the boss, it’s your job to hold your team accountable — even when it feels uncomfortable. It takes regular feedback, coaching, and probing questions to bring out your team’s inner ownership.
Where would you put yourself on the accountability dial? Are you giving real-time feedback and asking enough open questions? Are you empowering and empathizing with your team to help them solve their own problems? I invite you to connect the dots.